Minus 10 I'm Too Tired Excuses

My morning drive to the office this morning focused on sex. Specifically, the fact that most women are "too tired" to have sex. So they aren't having sex with their partner. Like ever.

I usually laugh off the people calling in to a radio show (particularly some guy willing to announce that he hasn't had sex with his wife since November), but then it hit me ... this guy has not had sex with his wife since November. He didn't sound mad. Or angry. Or ticked off. He sounded sad. He sounded lonely.

He understood the feeling - in fact, he felt she was justified in her tiredness. The stresses of working full time, taking care of the kids, going to school to finish her degree, volunteering at church, cleaning the house, grocery shopping, folding the laundry -- it's a lot to take on and would leave anyone feeling exhausted. He tried to help as much as he could, but she was still tired.

Here's what it is (and ladies, you may get mad at me - particularly the tired ones): Men feel loved when you have sex with them.

Yes, I know, I know. Women feel loved when men offer to get the groceries, cook dinner, make sure the children's homework is done, bring the garbage cans in from the roadside, let us watch what we want to watch on television, pay the bills, fight with the insurance company, organize school lunches, surprise us by getting all the laundry done, clean out the car, and anything and everything else that would take one thing off our plate without us having to tell them, beg them or threaten them to do it.

Remember when we were little and we were upset because some kid on the school ground made fun of our backpack? And our mom explained that we couldn't hurl an insult back just to "get even?" That instead we would collect more flies with honey and the next time we saw that person we should give a genuine compliment?
Guess what? That still works.

This month's challenge is to Minus 10 I'm Too Tired Excuses and instead have sex, kiss, touch, enjoy your partner when you'd rather just roll over and pretend to be asleep. (In case you didn't know, if you really like someone and they pretend to be asleep when you try to pay attention to them it hurts. It hurts deep. So don't do it. Because it's mean.)

And if you honestly find yourself too tired then please, for the sake of your relationship, choose to put the unimportant things on the back burner. Turn the television off at 9. Don't worry about that load of laundry; you can fold it tomorrow. Write out that bill at lunch the next day. Instead, go collect your flies with honey.